I am in my 11th year of caring for my father in law. My husband doesn't see it is making me ill. I believe parents should live with their children in the later years, but all siblings sharing equal responsibilities. Parents took care of all 3 sons and fed them and clothed them equally so they owe their parents equally. Now we are in an age where elderly are thrown away. Even the good ones that lived and honest, hard working, self sacrificing life are dumped. I get it. My problem is my husband has a soft spot for his lieing brother and I have reached my limit. I cook and serve my FIL daily. His dementia doesn't allow him to use the microwave. Now he wants to loan him money when we are broke. I am the stupid one. I said ok and have slowly resented him for asking me. I put myself here and may God help me to get out before my next horrible disease I get from the chronic stress. So has any one divorced on here to end their suffering? Even after 11 years my husband now 58 is gaining weight back after bariatric surgery and could end up like his dad and since I am 10 years younger my life would repeat.