I live with my grandma, who's 90 and recently broke a hip. She wasn't very mobile to begin with, but is now bedridden for good. She's almost deaf, almost blind, probably depressed and really has no desire to live. She often says that she'd just like to die already. We keep her comfortable, keep her clean and try to entertain her a little, but she's apathetic and just wants to sleep or stare at the ceiling. She almost doesn't eat (a few tablespoons 3 times a day) and gets upset if I keep offering her water and drinks. I honestly don't know how to help her and have told her so. She's still pretty alert, despite forgetting almost anything we tell her, what day it is and so on. She knows exactly where she is, and is not happy. Still, she doesn't outwardly say "Kill me", her reasoning is more like "What's the point of anything". I know I'd feel the same way if I were in her condition - she really can't do anything, not even watch TV! I am very fortunate to have a family who is extremely helpful. There is someone with her almost every day and they help out with everything. They are often more successful than I am at making her eat and drink - I do believe she does it more to please them than anything else. But even when she refuses, they insist and get upset. Food = love, right? I try to hint at them that we should let her go, even though she's still quite physically healthy. She's not dying, but she's not living either! Am I crazy to think that maybe we shouldn't be pushing her to 'live'? Please, please, tell me your thoughts. I'm new to this and I may just be scared and frustrated that she might linger on for a lot longer than my 30-year old self wants to be stuck at home without any real life.