My dad has had "bad" and "not as bad" days, and I guess that is not abnormal. As mentioned in other threads we moved him from a MC to a SNF on Thursday. Thursday seemed to be one of the better days so I was encouraged. But then yesterday I visited him at SNF and he was downright catonic. He was breathing hard, and when he barely opened his eyes to look at me he almost looked like he was pleading. I asked if he was in pain and I think he grunted a no. The station RN said he had been that way all morning. I asked if he had had anything to drink. The RN agreed he looked very dry. So they tried to get some water, but it was honey thick and the orders had always been nectar thick. I sought out the dietician and she said yes, the orders were honey thick so nothing they could do. It appeared my dad just gurgled out the honey thick. Once again, I called hospice and they straightened that out. I just don't get why orders always get mixed up. Anyway, as mentioned elsewhere, he had lost his partial denture a few days ago and the MC could not find it anywhere. In the evening, my dad was sort of gurgling and my mom reached in and found the partial denture in the back of his mouth. It must have been there for days. I don't know how he functioned at all then. (also upset with the MC, couldn't they have located it after we pointed out it was missing?)
Anyway, to make a long question longer, am wondering if my dads catonic state yesterday could have been from dehydration, complications from the denture in his mouth, or some trauma or exhaustion due to having moved him the day before. I have read that can be an issue. Or it could be just a bad day. Or, and this is what I fear, there obviously will be a last day. While I guess we are never ready for that, I just am not ready for that now. Maybe the selfless thing would be to hope he is liberated from all this. So I guess the main question in all this garble is, Is there a way of knowing whether it is just a bad day or is the last day?
His vitals all seemed good. I don't know if that matters. He seemed to eat fairly well last night, better than a long time. I think the aids at the SNF do a better job of feeding. Maybe he was just starving.
I saw a thread float around where CG said she dreads going to see her LO. At the time, feeling perhaps a bit haughty, I thought, how can you dread that? In a very short time I have become that way myself. I dread the thought of going there today for fear of how he might be.