As of last month, she actually began to live with my sister at home. She had been in a rehab facility and was in bad enough shape that it was determined that her ALF could no longer keep her. So my sister had to scramble around and get the best situation possible as soon as possible. She was able to acquire a hospital bed and other equipment/supplies to bring Mom home. The problem is that she (my sister) will be going back to work, and has only been able to secure some part-time help through agencies. As a result, since my sister manages all of Mom's affairs and is now providing almost round the clock personal care as well, she is completely exhausted. She is in the process of trying to secure as much help as possible since she'll be going back to work. Her job is extremely demanding and requires working "off" hours as well. She has taken excellent care of Mom, and Mom is thriving and happy. I just don't know how long she will be able to keep this up--coming home from work after having put in a full day--and immediately doing tasks for Mom when the part-time helper leaves, and waiting/hoping that the next one arrives on time so that she can leave for work on time. (And experience has been that many of the part-timers have been late).
Although skilled nursing wouldn't have been nearly as nice for Mom, I don't see how long this can go on. I live 2 hours away, and am married and have many obligations as well--and am in the process of trying to get a job, as we need it financially, and I have no health insurance and have been putting off getting things done medically. I DO go over one day per week to help, which is the most I am able to do right now, and when I become employed I will hopefully be able to still squeeze in a day or so.
I am just concerned that now that my Mom has been able to live in her own home so well and comfortably, I will hate it if we have to pull the rug out from underneath her, so to speak, especially now that facilities won't allow family members to visit.
Anyhow, what I had in mind--and I can pretty much expect my sister to "veto" the idea--I wanted to check into signing up for a temporary live-in person to take care of Mom. I DO know the costs, as I have checked into it--and I thought we could have someone, if we found someone we liked, to be a live-in for 2-3 months (agencies said they will hire for temp., for any length of time you like). And while it would be expensive, it would give us time to figure out our next move, and hire a couple of part-timers to be companions, and there would be no "gaps," and no worries about people not showing up on time.
Anyone who's had this dilemma, and any thoughts? I haven't brought this up to my sister, who seems to cut down every idea I have.