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I am so grateful for this site! You guys give me hope and laughter, when I think none is left! I posted awhile back about my mom's condition, and what to do about LTC, and you guys delivered! Broke it down for me in a understanding and gentle nature. So, at that time I was considering a nursing home. At that time I also decided, that yes, the time is like yesterday! However, I decided the best route to go, is through the hospital social worker, when she is admitted for next fall or infection. She is admitted every three or four months for lung infection and last time was May, so I'm figuring the time is drawing near. Currently, her mobility is awful and that is my biggest obstacle with care giving. She can't get out of a chair and I'm not supposed to do it, due to bad back and nerve damage in neck, which I think may be caused from the lift assistance. It has been a long summer. Took two of my college courses, while caring for her and my teenage son. No fun activities to date! Can't leave her too long. I am just over ready to reclaim my own life. I still plan to do LTC placement when she is at the hospital again. I don't wish her to have to go in hospital, but I know the progression of disease and it resurfaces every so often. I plan to remain strong on my decision because she needs more care then can truly be given by me. I just want her safe and able to be around people her age. Their is Really nice place just 5 minutes from my house and I pray I get her into that one. I think she will adjust in time and hopefully she realizes I did what was best "for both" of us, moving forward. I have had burnout, depression, anxiety, and the list goes on! I have so many things I need to do! Like teach my son to drive and get his license. His grandpa gifted him with his first car on his birthday back in June. We all know you can sit at DMV half a day and mom would blow my phone up. I refuse to keep living in restrictive lifestyle, due to Her health. At my age she was living her own life, and I plan to also. I have done this ten years now. Times up!!!His grandpa gave him a car for birthday, and I'd like to have time with my son before he wants to leave the nest! If my mom was in better health, then I'd remain in same home like we have. Family is family. However, their comes a time when your overly aware of your own health risks from situation. I have found peace with my decision. When its time, you just know! Plus, you feel such a peace with your decision because you know it benefits everyone positively. Thank you all for advice, tips, and well wishes! Feel free to tell me what's going on in your caregiver situation💗✌💕

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I’m glad you’ve found the solution that feels right.
Nothing too much going on with me and the husband. We bought some TED stockings for him to wear, to help with the circulation in his lower legs. I can tell you they are a bear to get on. They are SO tight! He’s doing better as far as compliance with his doctors’ orders but sometimes I just wanna bean him, he’s so stubborn. My mom once told me that sick husbands who get crabby tend to let the wives get the lion’s share of the crabbiness. True in our case.
That’s it from me. I wish you the best.

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I hope you will do this sooner rather than later, and to be frank they will really make it difficult when you get to hospital so start at once, no argument, no nothing, just make it absolutely clear on day one to the social worker that she cannot come back to you for even a moment. That will put them to work and they can do this work much faster than you can from home. They will attempt to dissuade you with platitudes of "we can make this work" and "we can get you more help." It won't and they can't but for a few days, so make it very clear you cannot do this physically or mentally. Glad you are moving forward.
Now, to my mind, if she cannot get out of chair and you are doing it with a bad back, the time to get her into the car, and out at ER with HELP FROM PERSONNEL is now, before you are seriously injured and all this advice is a crucial given, not in any way a choice. Wishing you luck and wait your updates.
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