I don't want to live in any of my children's home when I'm unable to care for myself. I prefer to be in a nursing home. Are there legal papers I need to fill out in advance to ensure my wishes are honored? I have made this decision because I don't want to be neglected by family members for the sole reason they want my SS check. I don't trust they will adequately or appropriately care for me because I have seen other family members neglected. I'm not sure if I need a lawyer or a living will at a hospital or what. However I absolutely don't want my daughter (s) placing me in their home.