My son lives next door with my sister, the sister that doesn't help me one bit with mom's care. He is 37 and should have a place of his own but that is another story. He wants to come over after a certain time of night and it irritates me so bad. I told him, when mom is down for the night, that is my time and should be since I have very little to myself. He continues to call after 8:00 p.m. and sometimes later wanting to come by and use my computer or to get something to eat or talk about his experiences of that day. I've asked my son to do things around the house, for instance, cut the backyard...still waiting on that one. He has worked as a CNA and knows how elderly people can be very needy and has stated that fact and how he can leave work and not have to deal with it but I deal with it 24/7. He knows this and makes a point of telling me that my job is hard. Then why don't he abide by my wishes and stop coming over the times I ask him not to. This is basically a daily thing with him. He doesn't help me with her so there's no usefulness with the situation, just stressing me out more. Every time it happens, I can feel my bp going up more and more. I just feel like screaming! Do I have to hurt someone's feeling to get my point across? These people don't seem to care about my feelings.