In Aug. I will be going on a retreat, and my husband is not able to take care of her. If I told her in advance, she will resist even leaving the house, or she will not remember 10 minutes after I tell her. She has extreme fear about being left somewhere, as she was the youngest and last of 5 children in her family to be placed or adopted. Would it help to take her 2 days ahead (if a bed is available nearby) and stay for awhile, and visit before I go? It is going to happen, because I need it, but I'd like to lessen the trauma.