I put her in Depends, but she takes them off at night and then wets. I have pads for her but she wets alot. She soaks her pillows, sheets, blankets, etc. How do I handle this?
Have you tried getting her up every few hours to put her on a bedside commode? That would more than likely help the issue of her soaking through everything. The anti-strip suit(that lealonnie1 suggested below)is another great option and you can put a Kotex type pad that they make for incontinence in her Depend as well to try and soak up more of the pee. And of course if this is all getting to be just to much for you, it may be time to place her in the appropriate facility where she will receive the 24/7 care she needs and you can get back to just being her daughter-in-law.
According to your other posts, your MIL has dementia & Parkinsons Disease, and suffers from a lot of issues, and you're now mentioning extreme incontinence at night as being another. Dementia often reaches a point where in home care becomes too much of a burden for the family to manage, and Memory Care Assisted Living becomes necessary. Or Skilled Nursing with Medicaid if there are no funds available to self pay. She may be at that point now, and it may be time for you to consider placing her.
In the meantime, you can buy your MIL an Alzheimer's anti-strip suit to sleep in here:
You can use these pads on the furniture too since she'll likely start soaking thru the Depends during the day; it's just a matter of time before that happens.
I suggest you read this 33 page booklet (which is a free download) which has THE best information ever about managing dementia and what to expect with an elder who's been diagnosed with it.
Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580
Jennifer is a nurse who worked for many years as an educator and counsellor for people with dementia and their families, as well as others in caring roles. She addresses the emotional and grief issues in the contexts in which they arise for families living with dementia.
Teepa Snow has great videos on YouTube which can be helpful to learn how to shower your MIL, and how to approach her so as not to frighten her, all sorts of things to help you learn about dementia patients.
The 36 Hour Day is an excellent reference type book to have on hand to answer questions you'll have that crop up all the time, too.
Best of luck coming up with a plan of action for the future, whether you place your MIL in managed care or hire in home help, etc. It's too much for one person to handle alone, that's for sure.
Take her to a urologist to find out if there is anything that can be fixed with meds, like a UTI. Restrict fluids before bedtime. There are suits that will keep the liquid inside if you want to look into that.
The anti-strip suit(that lealonnie1 suggested below)is another great option and you can put a Kotex type pad that they make for incontinence in her Depend as well to try and soak up more of the pee.
And of course if this is all getting to be just to much for you, it may be time to place her in the appropriate facility where she will receive the 24/7 care she needs and you can get back to just being her daughter-in-law.
In the meantime, you can buy your MIL an Alzheimer's anti-strip suit to sleep in here:
https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Alzheimers-Clothing-Jumpsuit-Nursing/dp/B076HQ9T27/ref=sr_1_8?crid=29MTZNTTKN5QZ&keywords=alzheimers+anti+strip+clothing+for+women&qid=1662846168&sprefix=alzheimers+anti+strip+%2Caps%2C675&sr=8-8
Then she cannot take off her Depends and make a mess for you to clean up and wash. Use booster pads in the Depends to soak up more urine:
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=adult+diaper+inserts&crid=50CDARZMQLGH&sprefix=alzheimers+anti+strip+clothing+for+women%2Caps%2C1646&ref=nb_sb_noss_1
Use Medline Extrasorbs chucks which absorb a LOT of liquid:
https://www.amazon.com/Medline-Absorbency-Disposable-Underpads-Protection/dp/B002NHIFNW/ref=sr_1_4_sspa?crid=3PW0516PJMBVE&keywords=medline+extrasorbs&qid=1662846342&sprefix=adult+diaper+inserts%2Caps%2C1994&sr=8-4-spons&psc=1
You can use these pads on the furniture too since she'll likely start soaking thru the Depends during the day; it's just a matter of time before that happens.
I suggest you read this 33 page booklet (which is a free download) which has THE best information ever about managing dementia and what to expect with an elder who's been diagnosed with it.
Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580
Jennifer is a nurse who worked for many years as an educator and counsellor for people with dementia and their families, as well as others in caring roles. She addresses the emotional and grief issues in the contexts in which they arise for families living with dementia.
The full copy of her book is available here:
https://www.amazon.com/Thoughtful-Dementia-Care-Understanding-Experience/dp/B09WN439CC/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2E7WWE9X5UFXR&keywords=jennifer+ghent+fuller+books&qid=1657468364&sprefix=jennifer+ghent%2Caps%2C631&sr=8-2
Teepa Snow has great videos on YouTube which can be helpful to learn how to shower your MIL, and how to approach her so as not to frighten her, all sorts of things to help you learn about dementia patients.
The 36 Hour Day is an excellent reference type book to have on hand to answer questions you'll have that crop up all the time, too.
Best of luck coming up with a plan of action for the future, whether you place your MIL in managed care or hire in home help, etc. It's too much for one person to handle alone, that's for sure.