I am a POA of my Mom, my father passed away unexpectedly in August. He had been taking care of my Mom who had some back issues, he dies, then the month later she breaks a hip. Mom is in an assisted living facility and she is doing very well with her recovery and physical therapy. She has memory and repeating issues, but is very very sharp on so much, she will repeat and forget but it is not all the time, she hasn't been diagnosed by a neurologist for possible dementia. She knows she repeats, and laughs it off She is 80 and is a very independent, feisty woman. Well, since she has been in the assisted living place, we have been telling her that this is a step down place for her to get stronger. Well, she is stronger, she is having PT there 3 times a week and her therapist is great. She mentions many times a day that she can't wait to get home, she is ready. Time to go.
I live in another state but spend much time there, with all business deals. etc. I have a few family members who want to keep her there, and not tell her that it is HER money that is being used to stay there, which you know it is outrageous. It is a beautiful place, but my Mom isn't rich, she could easily live there for up to 5 years without any issue, but after that, where and what would we do with her. She has longevity in her family and she could easily live to be near 90. I have been talking to home health agencies, and me myself could go there frequently I am retired. Other family members could help and her neighbors and friends would be there to pitch in too. Mom has a one floor small home and I would love for her to be able to go home. It is heartbreaking not telling her that she is there and it is HER money that is being used to pay. Mom is very very frugal and keeps up with her money issues, asks me every day about her bills (are they being paid) how much is in her bank. I am lying to her, and I know if we don't tell her the truth she is going to hate me too.
She trusts me and the other family members think she should stay there but I think giving her a shot at home, see how she does, stipulate stipulate stipulate that she can't do silly things that could cause her to hurt herself again. I need to discuss this with my family who want her there, I need to step up for Mom, it is heartbreaking to hear her say she can't wait to go home. So much has happened in a short period of time, Dad, her back, her hip, and now being put into a place that she wants to leave. Her room is very nice, but it is a room, the place is nice but it is an assisted living, not a lot of activity (or enough for her) going on there. I need to tell my family that she NEEDS to know she is paying for this place, she thinks Medicare is picking up the cost. Nope.. thank you all.. I am going crazy..