Which is better, a third party organization where their lawyer steps in for a fee and supposedly speeds things up or go directly to veterans administration. I have contact numbers for both. The fee is supposed to be a flat fee of $750. 00, worth it or not? My mom is 93 with Parkinson's. I feel it is time for assisted living. I'm worn out and have no time for me or my family. I have neglected myself. I need to get my life back and I truly desire to be a daughter to my mom again, instead of her full time caregiver. I fully intend to be involved in her life while she is at the facility. I would never abandon her. I just need a healthy balance in my life. Please share your thoughts with me. Thanks. How long does it take to get this ball rolling? My dad was a world war II vet so she would qualify for spousal benefits.