She went from being so happy and feeling safe to aggravated and accusatory. She was finally diagnosed with early dementia by her Dr and he gave her meds to help slow it down. I am dealing with all the problems that I have read about on here except I feel I have no support system. I feel alone and angry. I love and care for my mom and want her to stay with me but the blaming me for every little thing and accusing me is so very hurtful and frustrating. My husband would listen at first but he thinks we might should try putting her somewhere to take the stress off of me. So I've quit telling him so he doesn't get upset that I am stressed. I have 2 sons, one grown and the baby being 13 years old. He is my first priority. Its hard for him to see his grandma this way. It hurts him that she accuses me of things. She has her own room and small den, which she only comes out of to do her laundry, go to the kitchen and the bathroom. Which by the way she has her very own bathroom! None of us EVER go into any of them, and I only go into her room and den when she's in there! That said she insists it's not herself hiding stuff or losing stuff..."someone" must be coming in and getting it. I've mentioned putting a camera in the hallway so she can see who comes and goes from her rooms...which will be only her! I feel some way about using the camera but I feel I'm losing MY mind and it's only been a year! Maybe if she sees that it is HER and no one else she'll know. I understand its the disease but this is everyday I'm accused of something! My sister will come over once a week and visit and get mom's groceries. She takes her to the Dr occasionally too. My mom thinks she can do no wrong. If something is missing and i say maybe my sister moved it or took it (not in a blaming way)...mom gets very defensive and loud talking, saying my sister would NEVER do that! But she has no problem accusing me. It hurts so bad. And my sister never calls me and ask how I'm doing or how its going. Yet she calls mom 3 times a day. I have reached out to her before when this first started but her response is coming from someone who does not live with the problem and her answer seems so easy. She wants me to give in basically and talk to mom like she's a child. But my thing is this....if I just admit to it for argument sake, mom will always think I'm lying even when I'm telling the truth! I don't feel I should say OK and let her blame me! I tell her I didn't do it..I tell her it's ok that she did whatever it was and that we can fix it or whatever. She gets mad and starts putting words in my mouth, saying that I think she's crazy or a lier and thief! It's nuts! I can't make myself talk to mom like she's a child, either. I would feel like I'm talking down to her. When mom gets hostile with me, I sit and let her say what she wants, I don't let mom see how it upsets me. But let my sister call and she lights up and talks all sweet. Is THAT part of dementia?? I really don't know what to think!! If anyone can help me understand what I need to do please do! I have no other way to express myself and I need assurance that I won't lose my own mind trying to deal with my mom losing hers!!