Instead I was drawn deeper & deeper into her negative energy vortex! After 2yrs of sharing my "mama drama" with friends & a talk therapist I got mother moved into an assisted living facility. It's been 2 weeks. This past weekend there was some issues at the facility following a snow storm. I went over to assess the situation & was again sucked into her drama. Her issues DO have some warrant but I am DONE being my mother's rescuer. She insists on paying her own bills, managing her own meds & demands (to me) that she should be treated like the adult she is. I told her that she needs to speak up & express her feelings & her needs to the staff & even the director. If she didn't get a satisfactory response that she should file a grievance with the owners of the company & possibly call the department of aging. When I spoke to the director she told me that my mother was one of the most congenial & humorous residents during the upheaval the power outage caused. I shared some of my mother's concerns with her. She said my mother never mentioned anything of what I told her. That it sounds like she "saved it all for me." All this happened the day AFTER I went to my therapy appt. I was very optimistic & shared with my talk therapist that I felt at peace & less burdened. I also shared with her that I was reading a book about adult children of borderline personality parents. Don't know if mother really has that diagnosis (as with all her business, she keeps her business to herself) but it sure reads like she does. Anyway, my goal is to try to understand ultimately what makes me tick so I can be a better & happy person. My therapist said to stop trying to put labels on mother or myself & "be happy & live in the moment." All that sense of peace & contentment went straight out the window when I realized that I'd allowed myself to get sucked back into the "mama drama." I want to resign as my mother's daughter/rescuer/caregiver/confidant. I need to add that I am an only child. All our family (my mother's brother & his family) live 600 miles away. How do I disentangle myself from all this? We have never been that close. There has been alot of emotional neglect on her part, alot of dirty water has run under the bridge of our relationship. Her brother & his wife (my aunt) took me in numerous times during my childhood when my mother would be going thru her issues. HELP!!!