I’m a single mother of 4. My mom came to help me with my first child 20+ years ago and stayed ever since. Before coming to live with us, she was always sick and has never been financially independent. I have always helped her and as soon as I finished school first thing on my plans was to build her a house which I did. I got a loan built the house which is now paid. Since she’s been with us all these years, she has let my youngest brother live in her house. My advise to her has always been, it’s ok to let him use the house but charge him a minimum rent so you can save that money for any house maintenance. She has not done so, instead, any money she has she sends my brother. When my kids were younger, I used to pay her since I needed to work full time and she stayed home and care for the kids. However, now the kids are all grown and there’s no need for babysitter; however, she’s still living with us. I stopped paying her since I cover all of her expenses. I try to have at least one nice family vacation every year and she’s included. I also provide for her to go travel in the summer to go visit with her other children. My issue is that I have been working from home for the last three years and I have come to realize she has taken over my home. I had not realized this before since I was always at work and usually worked very long hours. But now that I’m home all the time, I want to run my home my way but she’s not flexible and frankly doesn’t even hear any of my complaints. The problem we have is that we’re opposite personalities. She’s an extrovert, I’m an introvert. She’s always singing or playing a video on her devices with the volume at the highest setting and I like quiet peaceful atmosphere. She’s very disorganized and a hoarder, I like to keep things in order as much as possible. She tends to be very critical of others, I like to stay away from drama. I know our opposite personalities can also be a plus that provides the kids with a well balanced home. But even though I work from home, I still work very hard to provide for my home and expect to be able to enjoy the fruit of my hard labor. I was hoping maybe this summer she would have decided to stay at her house when she travelled for the summer. Instead, we are now more than ever bound to be together for a long time until it is safe to travel again. She is also high risk under the pandemic conditions due to her diabetes and other complications. My kids are also home since the two oldest had to return from college due to the schools closing during this crisis. All four kids are now doing school online. I continue to be employed but would really love to get along well with my mom and make this difficult situation a time to bring the family together. Yet, I feel everyday more and more desperate because I yearn for my independence and full control of my home which my mom has taken from me and refuses to give back. What do I do? I love to hear how others might have handled similar circumstances successfully.