I have been caring for my granny for yrs now. Well recently she decided to turn off her sisters cell phone since she qualifies for free one & we gave her a months notice before it shut off. Now since I keep killing every way she's been using my granny to get money or free stuff she started calling in false reports on me & now my granny's is mad at her so she doesn't want to talk to her but her sister calls my phone threatening to get a lawyer to charge me with abuse. She's in a nursing home & last time I knew my granny was her POA & now I'm my granny's POA. What can I do to make her stop since my granny is old fashioned & doesn't want to be blunt & tell her she's mad & doesn't want to talk to her? She talks to whoever else she wants to but she hasn't even asked to call her sister yet. My mom has tried to tell her sister that she has ways to talk but when she doesn't get an answer she blames me & says I'm keeping her from her. No she's the one keeping her from herself bc she keeps making her mad by calling in on the only person she's got to tend to her but she doesn't care she just loves drama. Always has. Please help I'm tired of dealing with it & I already been thru it with APS & was cleared with no problems & she continues to try to stir crap. Can I tell her nursing home not to let her call out anymore. Or should I wait for lawyers to contact me & then call & let them know the whole story including that she is falsely reporting things.
The problem I see here is ur gran being her sisters POA. Your profile says that Gran has Dementia. If this is correct, she cannot be POA because she is not competent to make decisions for her sister. You say sister is in a NH, why? Does she suffer from a Dementia. If so, she cannot reassign a POA. And if she has Dementia it explains a lot.
Someone will need to get guardianship for sister if she is incompetent to make informed choices. This is expensive so if sister has no family, then the State may need to take over her care. Then its Gran. If she has been diagnoised with a Dementia, then your POA is in effect and you are in the right to protect her.
Seems like you have been Caregiving for a while. I don't think you should take on sisters care too. Let others do that. I would not worry about lawyers. If Aunt has no money and she is in a NH, Medicaid is probably paying her way. If she sold a car, that money should be going towards her care if over the 2k Medicaid allows you to have in the bank. There is no way she can hire a lawyer. They want money up front. I doubt if they would take her case because APS has found in your favor already. If she suffers from Dementia, I would not worry about lawyers. You can always tell them she suffers from a Dementia and APS cleared you.
Keep good records. Do not spend any of Grans money on yourself. Her bank statements should only show what she spends on and for herself. Thats bills, taxes, repairs on the house, etc. No large amounts of money gifted. If you buy out of pocket for her, I suggest keeping all receipts and once a month reinburse yourself with a check. Put the receipts in an envelope with the check # on the outside.
If Aunts your only problem, think ur in the clear.