I am looking for resources to educate myself on what the state and federal regulations are in getting help for a parent who not only does not recognize her need for it but refuses to live anywhere else. I am able and willing to move to Virginia where I can get a job and a home for the 2 of us. I would hire help to be with her during the day while I was at work. I understand how it works when someone is mentally ill. I do not know how the process works when someone is not suffering from Alzheimer's although she is showing symptoms of what may be early dementia
Due to increasing problems with her memory she forgets to take her medication and she is driving which is a major concern. I need resources and information to know how to proceed. I do not want to put her in a facility. She is not at a point where that is necessary. She is however, incapable of living alone Safely. I respect and truly empathize with her feelings of not wanting to leave her home. She has always been very independent and young spirited. Currently she is working extra hard to present herself as OK and yet there have been tell tale signs that she is not. Right now she has friends in the community that are checking on her and being a tremendous help. In my opinion, it is time for her family to take the full responsibility of her being OK.
She has been experiencing dizzy spells which have led to her falling. She always gets up and says she's fine and that she did not faint.
She calls my sister in Florida several times a day to ask questions about her computer or her phone. Whenever she does this it usually is with a heightened sense of emergency. When she cannot understand how to resolve the problem she becomes frustrated and the conversation declines from there. She has been having arguments and getting angry at her friends over minor disagreements. This has been alarming to them because it is not my mother's character. Neither my sister nor myself what to wait until the worst happens. It has been a discussion with my mother for months and yet she refuses to consider any alternative and insists that she is doing just fine on her own.
I respect my mother and totally can understand why this period in her life is very painful for her. Yet, I do not feel that putting her wishes in front of what is best for her is being responsible. Any thoughts, feedback And/or resources providing some guidance would be very much appreciated