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You cannot. If your mother is competent to confer POA on you and remove it from you then she is competent to do that. It is entirely up to her. Move away from all the pain and trouble it amounts to (I know, I do it) and enjoy your life. Visit your mother and love on her and when she is in a bad mood or has problems remind her of your Cousin's phone number and take yourself out to lunch. Have a great time. Enjoy the relief.
Now IF you feel your mother is incompetent and you have PROOF of that, then you are welcome ALSO to go for guardianship of her (what a nightmare), and you will be in control of everything. Does that sound preferable.
Wishing you good luck and happy lunchs without Mom.
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You will not be able to get guardianship if Mom is found competent. Doesn't matter how she handles her money or not. And as said, she has to revoke cousins to re-assign u.

Lots of members have a narcissistic parent or parents. They will probably tell you to walk away. Be glad you are not involved.
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It’s entirely up to your mother to revoke the current POA and reassign it to you. Why do you want it back though? If she’s a narcissist like your profile says, walk away. I mean what’s in for you if you Continue to deal with this?
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Humama Jan 29, 2020
I do not trust my cousin’s judgment. She has a hot org of making poor financial and personal decisions. I can take care of my mother’s affairs appropriately. My mother was angry because I looked into her homeowners insurance situation. She wasn't taking care of it, so I was trying to make sure her home
and belongings were covered.
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Is it possible your mom has a legitimate reason to be unhappy with you? As long as she is competent, she can change her POA agent.
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Humama Jan 29, 2020
There is no rational reason for what she did. All my life she makes and breaks promises, agreements, etc. to maintain control and power. This is what narcissists do.All I tried to do is what was sensible, the same as any of you would do for your elderly parent.
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Probably not without consulting or retaining an attorney. Ethically, your cousin should not have done it.
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Humama Jan 29, 2020
It doesn’t help that this cousin is
a narcissist also. She sued her own sister because she though the sister got too much inheritance. I do not trust the cousin with POA at all. I had to withdraw direct communication and contact with my mother because of the emotional distress and health issues having a relationship with her causes. At the same time, I know my father would want me to look after my mother. I am trying to be a good and dutiful child here while trying to keep my sanity.
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Only your mother can do that. You have no legal options other than guardianship if she has been diagnosed as incompetent by a doctor.

Her actions sound like something a narcissist would do.
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Humama Jan 29, 2020
I may eventually have to resort to pursuing guardianship if I cannot get a joint POA. I don’t want to do this but my mother has always made things much harder than they had to be my whole life.
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