I just put my Aunt, who I have POA over, in the NH. Grandson acted like I did something wrong. Any advice?

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I text the grandchildren and daughther-in-law the name address all information where their Grandmother is. Then I said if you want anything out the house let me know I have thirty days to clean out the apartment. The granddaughter in ohio response I want all her stuff I said okay let me know when you can come get it. The other grandson who live in jersey city called my phone and talk so nasty , and the text he send im so upset because I have been doing for my aunt for over three years running back and forth making sure she is being taking care of .she had a 24hr live in aid up until yesterday. Everyone else including my aunts daughter in law comments on a job well done. It just make me so upset for someone to act like I did something wrong. Help in jersey.

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Thank you all so much.i feel much better.
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You were nice by contacting them. Now your job is done. The granddaughter wants everything...great.
Tell her she has 1 week to come and get it all or it gets cleaned out by a volunteer agency and donated.
Or better yet...have a big estate sale...that could help in off-setting the costs you've spent in caring for her.
The only person you are responsible to...is your aunt.
When anyone I contact is nasty to me...communication is cut. They can call or text all they want but I'm done on my end.
I don't care what anyone interprets my silence as being.
I report to God...not to people.
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The ignorant grandson really IS ignorant in every sense of the word. There are people who still think using facility care is always wrong and loved ones should always be cared for at home no matter what, or they are not "loved" ones...these are for the most part people who have never done it themselves or have had a pleasant and relatively easier time of it if they did.

I know what it is though to have done your best at a very, very difficult thing, and then get kicked in the teeth for it...you were expecting and deserving a thank you so the defenses were down.

I would take a little time to calm down, and then if nothing else came to mind, find someone in the family who could relay your point of view to him, that you were very hurt and could not believe that you were accused of wrongdoing. Maybe even coordinate a couple of people to gang up on him :-). If your aunt's needs exceeded what a 24 hour live in caregiver could do, then this was the right move and the only move. You feel bad enough about having to do that in any event...maybe a little education could be provided, but you probably should not provide it yourself, as having been cursed at and threatened means you don't need to speak with him until an apology is made. People like this could interpret your silence as guilt and he could otherwise go on smugly believing what he said was fair and accurate.
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Block jerko's number from your phone.

If the gal calls back and gives you a hard time, tell her you've left the keys with the landlord and book. If your name's not on the lease? It's not your responsibility to empty anything.
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Shake the dust of the experience off your feet and keep on keeping on. Not worth the time to read it.
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Yup. I would certainly ignore him. The ones who never visit always have the most opinions and the biggest mouths.
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He said I was selfish who the F*** I think im and I will reap what I sow ect. For someone who lived right their in jersey city I seen my aunt more then any of the grands and nieces. I was the only one.
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What on earth did he say? Did it have to do with the idea of Aunt being in NH or is it because his sister got to the "stuff" first? In any event, YOU know you've been doing your best for your aunt. I would take the high road and text him back and say "someone with a really foul mouth seems to be using your phone. I know that you'll want to come visit your grandma real soon; I'll tell her that you send your love". I would ignore any other nasty comments from him or from anyone else.
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