
She came here in 2023 to live with us, because it was too hard to continue taking care of her house on her own in Vegas. She had a surgery about five months after she got here, it was supposed to be just overnight, she was in the hospital for three weeks and then had to go to a rehab place. While in the hospital, she ended up in the ICU with an infection. She was on a ventilator for three days and in ICU for 10. She actually came out of all of that OK, but she had to go to a rehab center to gain her strength back, while she was there, she ended up getting a serious UTI, pneumonia and sepsis. She has never fully recovered cognitively. I took care of her for as long as I could, but she has been in a memory care facility since February 2024, so it will just be nice to get on here and hear other stories and get advice. It was just such a quick change mentally from when it all happened, and it’s just so hard not to have her be her anymore. 😢
Now saying this, it does of course take one incident to change everything for any family at any time, due to accident, illness, injury. But with elders it is a certainty.
Sue do welcome you to Forum, and sorry for all you are going through.
If your mom was in her right mind she would most certainly tell you that you did the right thing for all involved.
As "we" get older is becomes more and more difficult to recover from any illness. the fact that you mom had a lot piled on top of each other made it more difficult for her to recover and return to her "baseline cognition". Just expect that with each illness she may not bounce back like you or I would.
Watching a loved one decline is difficult
Welcome to the Forum. Any time you have a question, want to vent this is a good place to do that. Know we have all been there in some way.