They had adult abuse charges but they closed the case they found nothing on me. Now they're saying that I'm not fit to take care of my mother she's not to come here or be checked out by me, but my 15 years of credentials should show I'm the best caretaker in the world.
I think you need to see a Lawyer. There is Legal Aid that may help you find one u can afford.
I suggest you write, in order, everything down that started this whole thing. #1, #2, #3...ect.
I am getting the impression English is not ur first language. Have someone go over what u have written to make it better to understand. Get paperwork that u have been investigated and the charges were unfounded. Get together as much as u can. You need someone on ur side to find out the answers.
I just read about ur brother cashing in a policy. Is Mom receiving Medicaid? If so, ur brother has to cash in her policy for her care. I think one problem is you may not understand how the system works. Brother has POA and now complete control. The Administrator isn't calling the shots, ur brother is. He can request that no one take Mom out of the building. I suggest you talk to your brother saying that ur confused and can he please explain what is going on. If he doesn't do this, then go the way of a Lawyer.
No, I have never had an Administrator come to my home. I can see if LTC is in Moms future the Administrator asking about finances. He needs to know if Mom can private pay or will need Medicaid.
I suggest you call Adult Protection Services and tell them you are having a problem with this Administrator. You need to know what the APS person said to him. Medicare will pay 100% for 20 days. 21 to 100 days 50%. Mom may be responsible for about $160 a day.
If ur not satisfied with this NH you can have Mom transferred. She is not in jail. She is a resident not a patient. She has rights.
I'm finding it difficult to understand what the abuse allegations were about, and whether they actually were allegations or if the people who are responsible for safeguarding your mother's best interests are just trying to gather the information they need about her.
There are several things to be considered and understood:
Your mother's immediate care needs, and where they can best be met;
Your mother's finances - who's paying for her care if she can't;
The plan for your mother's care once she is over her hip fracture, and depending on her overall state of health when it can be assessed.
Could you go back a bit, and describe what happened when your mother was first taken into care?
If this is the decision of the Adminstrator and cannot give u a reason, cal, ur State Ombudsman to investigate.