ConcernedSon, sounds like your stepmother has a full plate when it comes to your Dad and his refusal to have a caregiver help him out. I see your stepmother is blind and is in a wheelchair [or is out, now mobile?].
Since your Dad lives on the west coast, how often do you get to see him. When it comes to Alzheimer's, there is something called "showtiming" where they can hide their memory issues for awhile. It's amazing how they do that. So unless you are around Dad 24/7, you are not witnessing what your stepmother is seeing.
Curious how did your stepmother steal the money? Living in Independent Living isn't cheap. In fact, aging is expensive. I see back in Sept your stepmother had a caregiver, and that can drain the best savings account.
As his wife she the money she has "stolen" is still community property. That is to say that money will still go to pay his expenses. What expenses would he have other than expenses they share. Was this an attempt to hide assets? I am very confused by the question and hope that it can be restated with some details. Thanks and good luck.
[??? The title has changed from "test" to the above, just in case anyone thought I had lost my mind.]
To address the new title: why, exactly, does your father need to be told this in plain words? Is he still theoretically in control of his own finances? I'm hoping there may be a way to avoid the necessity altogether, or at least to break the story down into gentler, more digestible pieces over time.
ConcernedSon, sounds like your stepmother has a full plate when it comes to your Dad and his refusal to have a caregiver help him out. I see your stepmother is blind and is in a wheelchair [or is out, now mobile?].
Since your Dad lives on the west coast, how often do you get to see him. When it comes to Alzheimer's, there is something called "showtiming" where they can hide their memory issues for awhile. It's amazing how they do that. So unless you are around Dad 24/7, you are not witnessing what your stepmother is seeing.
Curious how did your stepmother steal the money? Living in Independent Living isn't cheap. In fact, aging is expensive. I see back in Sept your stepmother had a caregiver, and that can drain the best savings account.
Could you update us about what's happened since then? Where is your father? Where is your stepmother?
How did she "steal" all his assets and is there no recourse, like legal action?
Where is dad living, and will this turn of events affect that?
Does he still have income?
To address the new title: why, exactly, does your father need to be told this in plain words? Is he still theoretically in control of his own finances? I'm hoping there may be a way to avoid the necessity altogether, or at least to break the story down into gentler, more digestible pieces over time.