It’s still Covid-19 and we haven’t had vaccines nor has she. My brothers name is on home ownership for tax reasons. I dislike his rude selfish daughter . Do I have to let her come here to our home now?
She sounds a bit like a cousin of mine who showed up at our grandmother's doorstep (having never even meeting her before) expecting to stay "with Grandma" while she took her kids to Disneyland. My grandmother lived in a single-wide mobile home and wasn't enamored of this idea, so she closed the door in their face.
There's something unique to those of us who live in the vicinity of Disney properties. People think they can come and treat you like a hotel whether they were invited or not. I suspect the daughter is more interested in your proximity to Disney World than she is in dear old Dad. I suggest you say you cannot accommodate any visitors in your home at this time, and look forward to seeing her after it's safe. End of discussion.
Oftentimes I find useful acting semi-dumb as though you don't understand where the other person is coming from. When the niece ignores your comments, play dumb and simply apologize for not explaining it clearly enough, then repeat what you said before. It frustrated pushy people to no end to be out-pushed.
I hope your brother has given you POA over his affairs, because his daughter should have none of his personal information. I doubt she's interested in anything other than how much is in the bank. You also should protect yourself by making sure the house is either left to you or knowing you will have to vacate it if he leaves it to her or dies intestate (without a will). As the next of kin, she would get his assets before you do.
What do you mean by " My brothers name is on home ownership for tax reasons." Are you both on the deed? If so its your house, too. As such you can tell daughter that you will not be able to accommodate her this time. I have a feeling she is using your home to save money. Daughter or not she is rude thinking it is OK to barge in and with strangers tagging along.
I hope you have POA. This gives you some clout in saying you are welcome to visit but you can not stay here because its not safe for you Dad.
Does your brother want to spend time with his daughter? I can't imagine a father not wanting to spend time with their child. This really isn't about you and what you want or think, it really is about your brother getting to spend time with his daughter. You can all still take the necessary precautions pertaining to Covid if needed. And if you don't want to be around her, perhaps you can make sure that you are out of the house while she is there visiting. You should be grateful that your niece wants to spend time with her father, as there is no more important relationship than that between a father and daughter.
I'm going to post here what you have in your profile because I think it's helpful:
I have cared for my older brother for 24 years in Florida. His adult daughter insists on visiting and bringing distant family members to our home on HER demand. She lives in Nevada. After all her time away from my brother, her father, she is now demanding all his personal , medical and financial information. This house ( my family and my brother with dementia etc live here) is in his name for tax and other reasons. Do I HAVE TO let her come to my house during the Covid- 19 pandemic ? I dislike her intensely but her estranged father loves her. I told her to wait two months until all have had their vaccines. She refuses to wait for a safer time because they made plans to visit DisneyWorld soon! Can I legally keep her and her group out of my home until a safer time? My brother is a veteran suffering from PTSD, Parkinson’s, diabetes, COPD , Incontinence , etc. I love him dearly and take excellent living care of him."
Who is your brother's PoA? Is your brother rational and able to make sound decisions? If so, what does he say about having visitors and the covid risk? I think this is a diplomatically delicate situation.
If you're in FL then set up tables and chairs outside in the shade and have them all visit distanced (and ask the guests to help with the set-up). Or maybe have them in his room one at a time, distanced with masks on and windows open for air exchange. Or you leave the premises for the duration of their day visit. It is her father and your brother may have less earthly time left than others so it shouldn't be squandered in family spats... Has your brother not received his vaccine yet? If not, why? He certainly seems like a high-risk category. I hope all goes well!
There's something unique to those of us who live in the vicinity of Disney properties. People think they can come and treat you like a hotel whether they were invited or not. I suspect the daughter is more interested in your proximity to Disney World than she is in dear old Dad. I suggest you say you cannot accommodate any visitors in your home at this time, and look forward to seeing her after it's safe. End of discussion.
Oftentimes I find useful acting semi-dumb as though you don't understand where the other person is coming from. When the niece ignores your comments, play dumb and simply apologize for not explaining it clearly enough, then repeat what you said before. It frustrated pushy people to no end to be out-pushed.
I hope your brother has given you POA over his affairs, because his daughter should have none of his personal information. I doubt she's interested in anything other than how much is in the bank. You also should protect yourself by making sure the house is either left to you or knowing you will have to vacate it if he leaves it to her or dies intestate (without a will). As the next of kin, she would get his assets before you do.
I hope you have POA. This gives you some clout in saying you are welcome to visit but you can not stay here because its not safe for you Dad.
I have cared for my older brother for 24 years in Florida. His adult daughter insists on visiting and bringing distant family members to our home on HER demand. She lives in Nevada. After all her time away from my brother, her father, she is now demanding all his personal , medical and financial information. This house ( my family and my brother with dementia etc live here) is in his name for tax and other reasons. Do I HAVE TO let her come to my house during the Covid- 19 pandemic ? I dislike her intensely but her estranged father loves her. I told her to wait two months until all have had their vaccines. She refuses to wait for a safer time because they made plans to visit DisneyWorld soon! Can I legally keep her and her group out of my home until a safer time? My brother is a veteran suffering from PTSD, Parkinson’s, diabetes, COPD , Incontinence , etc. I love him dearly and take excellent living care of him."
Who is your brother's PoA? Is your brother rational and able to make sound decisions? If so, what does he say about having visitors and the covid risk? I think this is a diplomatically delicate situation.
If you're in FL then set up tables and chairs outside in the shade and have them all visit distanced (and ask the guests to help with the set-up). Or maybe have them in his room one at a time, distanced with masks on and windows open for air exchange. Or you leave the premises for the duration of their day visit. It is her father and your brother may have less earthly time left than others so it shouldn't be squandered in family spats... Has your brother not received his vaccine yet? If not, why? He certainly seems like a high-risk category. I hope all goes well!