I have lived with her for 20yrs. Full Time carer with guardianship and Enduring power of Atorney for the last yr. In hospital for now but might be home soon. May have a few months left to live. Everyone has been visiting her and using my past against me like I'm going to run off with everything they tell her. They say even if I don't they've all pressured her saying I'm on drugs now, if I'm included in the will then I'll squander all my inheritance on drugs. I've been clean for over 10yrs and my son, 20yrs, will suffer. Thats not who I am! What do I do? It's not the inherinheritance I'm worried about, but my mum . How can I address these issues with her without causing undue stress to her health. She is also contantly heavily medicated on hydromorphime yet in cronic pain, uncomfortable, short of breath in hospital recovering from pneumonia. She seems ok mentally but to want to suddenly sign the house that my son and I live in over to a family member before she dies doesn't sound like a sound decision. How do I protect her rights at the same time avoid conflict with her? As her son I don't want her to die especially like this. I don't know what to do. or even if I can .
You are badly in need of an elder law attorney. Please do see one who understands the law in your area. I surely wish you the best and hope your Mom and you will have Hospice Support as well.
Is Mom on Hospice? If Mom is heavily medicated, then she cannot be expected to make informed decisions. So don't think it would be legal at this point to have her sign anything. You can keep people from visiting. Tell them not a good time. She is sleeping. Please call before visiting. Family seems to come out of the woodwork when someone is dying. They are looking for their share. By putting u down, they may get a bigger share.
Don't think I would address the issues. Mom has been living with you for 20 yrs. Right now her mental state is being altered by the pain meds. The only way family can do anything is maybe bring paperwork with them, but as I said, she is under the influence of Drugs, so I can't see where they would be legal.
If visits by other relatives are upsetting and agitating her, you as her legal authority can block these people, but just understand this "lack of access" will create a blow-back by them and they will become more suspicious and accusatory than before.
You wrote, "She seems ok mentally..." and if so, then why are you her guardian in the first place? Knowing this piece of info will give helpful context to better answer your question. If it's complicated then maybe you should be talking to an elder law attorney and not a forum of non-lawyers.