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do i needto get guardianship of my 88 year old dad with Alzheimer's. He lives in an assisted living facility now. We just lost my mom 3 weeks ago and she did everything for him. I have POA and control of his medical and finances already.
The issue i have is i have a Blood sucking money hungry vampire sister and brother in law that all they see is green $$$$$$$$.

any advise

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Jeannegibbs gave you sound advice.
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You sister and brother-in-law should not be able to get at your mom's money. If there is any chance they could -- name on an account, visiting and talking Mom into writing a check, cut them off at the pass. Open up a new account for Mom and transfer all of her funds out of old accounts.

I think I would leave well enough alone, after safeguarding the accounts. If you apply for guardianship your sister might fight you, and then you'll have an expense fight on your hands.

If Vampire decides to apply for guardianship, you won't really have much recourse but to fight it. But I won't start the process myself.

Keep extremely good records of how you handle Mother's accounts.
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I would do what Jeanne advised - if you have POA and you are his Health Care Proxy, then you don't need to file for guardianship as you already possess the necessary power to handle your Dad's affairs. This is what I was told anyway when I was attending to my parents affairs. I was told guardianship would only be filed if I relinquished my duties as POA and HCP rep. Then a court appointed guardian would have been appointed as I was the only sibling willing to help in these matters.

Hugs to you and sincere sympathy on the death of your Mother. Take care.
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Excuse me. It is your Dad for you have POA. My advice is the same.

Condolences on the recent death of your Mother.
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thank you everyone. it is nice to hear from other people who are going through the same thing. The part that killse is my dad call over 15 times a day asking where mom is do my life is like ground hog day. I have to live her death over every day more then once. the first was at 5am this morning.
he even said when i find mom tell her i want a divorce. This is a LIFE CHANGING EVENT. It is very damaging to my family of 6. It is really pressing my relationsahip with my wife.....
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Poor Dad. Mom did everything for him, and now she is gone. Will the ALF be able to increase their services to him, or is he going to need a different care level? Is he in a dementia wing?

Poor Son and Daughter-in-law. Father's confusion is painful. His repeated calls are annoying. And the responsibility for another adult takes time away from the responsibilities for the children. This is not easy!

I'd say give Dad a few more weeks to adjust to being alone. If he needs to move to a higher care level, he'll need time to adjust to that, too. Then come back here and make more posts. Get advice on how to set limits with Dad and how to protect yourself and your family while still supporting Dad. Mostly people who have something to say about guardianship will read this thread, so starting new threads when the time comes may get you responses from a broader range of forum members.
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I relinquished poa of my Mother to my sister and moved her in with her. However,my sister fought daily with Mom,left her alone and continually had temper fits and cried and said she was not a care giver. She would not assist Mom with her baths, meals or medication. Needless to say I brought Mom back to live with me and my wife gives her total care while I am at work. Do I need another poa or can I just tear up the adeum to the original, where I relinguished to my sister?
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