My brother told my mom he wouldn’t come to her funeral and wouldn’t speak to her again unless she told him where I keep her money.
This happened a few months ago and he hasn’t spoken to her since. He made this awful statement to her ON HER BIRTHDAY.
What had precipitated this was he had wanted her to tell him where I keep her money. I am POA for her and executor for our dad’s estate. I will be her executor as well. Now I pay the bills for the nursing home she’s in.
She didn’t tell him and that’s what he got salted up about. He’s mainly salted up that he wasn’t named as executor. So he hasn’t spoken to her since.
Mom is in her 80’s but I hope she breaks all the records and lives another 35 years. She is doing well now in the NH but she’s had a couple of near-death experiences in the past year. I guess my question is, do I even have to contact him and let him know about her death when it happens? He doesn’t speak to anyone in the family.
I know I’ll have to deal with him eventually as he is named in her will. But the actual funeral. He said he wouldn’t come but I imagine he will come and showboat as the grieving son and bad mouth me to everyone behind my back like he did at my dad’s. I don’t even want to look at him or be the target of another spectacle. He made a big scene in the hospital screaming at me when my dad was in a coma and died the same night.
Am I obligated to tell him when she passes and her funeral arrangements? I couldn’t even grieve my dad properly because my brother has been such a nightmare.
Thank you for allowing me to express my feelings.