She won’t tell me when she is leaving. I am fifty. I feel like I may lose my sanity and my own family with how much attention she takes. I have told her that we need our own life and we can help her with an apartment. She immediately becomes belligerent and then won’t talk to me for a couple of days. She tends to be negative and very critical of everything we do. She wants everything her way. When I tell her what I want, it is as if she did not hear me. I can’t think of the last time I have gotten a compliment. It is as if it is a power struggle and she wants ultimate control, so she will always let you know that you are not good enough and do everything wrong as a way, I think, to let you know that you need her. She never takes the blame for anything. If you ever try and turn the tables around, she can’t handle it. I find that the relationship is TOXIC. I am happier when she is not around. How can you get a parent like this to leave your house? I never asked her to come in the first place and I definitely did not ask her to stay for some indefinite period of time. Problem is that I think she thinks if she leaves that we won’t visit her. I would - most sure how often. And, I think she feels like this is the only place she has any love at all. She has pushed so many people away. There is obviously something she is getting living here uninvited. I don’t think she will stop acting narcisstic-like. I feel TRAPPED. I never thought I’d get married, have kids, and never be able to separate from my mother. God bless my husband because I really can’t get her out of here! What do I do before I lose myself and my family? It is not my life. It is hers. I feel like a ten-year-old that has to follow her rules, because she has no respect for mine and my wants/needs. It is all about her.