I have been the main carer to my mother in law since June 2107. She is so vile to me and is very clever to be all sweetness and light in front of people and then nasty to me when we are on our own..she has dementia and lost her husband 3 years ago. She is now lying to me and becoming increasingly nasty. I try and talk to my husband and he just gets cross with me and says it's her condition. I understand that but he's not on the receiving end of all the abuse and now physical abuse towards me. I have been hit, spat at, and items thrown at me. I was working 70 hours a week but I've had to cut down as it was making me ill. Can anyone advise me on what to do please. I'm at my wits end. The family have all fallen out due to her dementia and I'm the one getting all the hassle and problems and the family who do nothing get all the praise. I'm going on holiday this week and she is going into respite, but I'm getting abuse saying it's my fault she's going into the home. I think it's time I totally stepped back. Please can anyone help me. Thank you.