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These people are expecting u to take Uncle into your home. The first thing you need to say is "this is not happening". Don't let them tell you its your responsibilty, its not. Tell them to just look at Uncle as a man with no family and to handle it that way. That as a niece you are not obligated or have the authority to handle this problem. So, they need to do what they need to do. Stand firm. Tell them, sorry I couldn't be of help and hang up. Do not answer the phone if they call or block them if u can.
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You tell the discharge nurse or Social Worker that you have no POA and you are not responsible for your Uncles care. That, they will need to contact his primary doctor or get the one who was assigned to him at the hospital to order "in home care". You cannot do it from where you are especially with the virus problem right now. And that is not ur responsibility. This is the Social Workers job to make sure Uncle is discharged safely. With everything in place he needs.

If Uncle can no longer care for himself, the SW can apply to the courts to assign a guardian. That person will take over his care. If he needs a Nursing Home they will find it. They will apply for Medicaid if he needs it. You will not be responsible for anything. They are just trying to push their job on someone else.

How were they able to contact you? Just curious.
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So just leave him there. You aren’t legally responsible for him. It will be very difficult
to find a new primary doctor in California right now. The facility won’t just put your uncle on the street. Any reason your uncle can’t advocate for himself here?
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Are you his only relative? No siblings or kids for him? You do NOT have to do anything. Do NOT take him into your home. It will be hard and you will regret it.

The facility needs to know that you are not the person who will be caring for him. There must be someone there who can help you figure out how/where to have him go when he's released.
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No, you are not responsible for him. I guess he has no children? Are u POA? If so, that doesn't mean you are physically responsible for him. Explain to discharge that you cannot bring him to your home. That they need to set him up with in home care. Otherwise, they are sending him home with no help. This will be easier to do if u have no POA. If you have POA, you do have more of a responsibility to make sure he has what he needs. But that doesn't mean in ur home, u caring for him.

For me, a woman, I would not be caring for a man not my husband. Not even my Dad. My brothers were told that was their responsibility. And a man who needs a catheter change, definately not. (unless my DH) But thats me.
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MARYMOR Mar 29, 2020
I do not have poa. I have told facility I do not not have in home care care. They have said I need to find primary to order it. I cannot find doctor only urgent care to see him. Their response is they are in Nevada and I will have to handle it. I am afraid with what my options are as well as my uncle
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