Convince your mom to give you POA but let her know that you will not invoke it until needed. If mom won't do it, tell her that if no family member has been given POA, and she is incapacitated (auto accident, for instance), she could become a ward of the state and a court-ordered guardian will be making all her decisions for her including finances, where she lives, and medical care. Does she want a stranger handling her affairs? If your mother is still driving, then contact the DMV to submit an anonymous report that she likely has dementia and is driving without a license. And get her physician to diagnose her symptoms; she may or may not have dementia. Refer the DMV to her physician to request his/her medical opinion on her ability to drive. And sell or donate the car.
So, when Mom goes to drive the car you call the police. Tell them she has no valid license, tags or insurance. They wil, probably not allow her to drive from that point. May even impound the car. Unless u can have it towed to your house. If impounded, if not worth much leave it and it will be sold at auction.
Yes, the police would have the car towed to an impound lot. Those tickets are expensive ($$$) and so is the impound retrieval ($300+). Gotta produce the car title at the impound lot and I think the owner needs to be present (or the PoA). Not sure if they require the vehicle owner to have a valid license to release the car or not.
My parent lives in the same town is 76. Refuses to sign POA because she doesn't want to give up her independence and admit there is an issue which I understand but I am concerned she will hurt some. Unfortunately the laws in our state say she has to be caught driving in order for the police to intervene.
More details would be helpful: - how old is this parent? - do you live local to them? - do you want to assume the responsibility of managing their affairs if you can get PoA? (You are not obligated to do so.) - are they a danger to themselves right now? If so, report to APS.
If your question is about them driving when they ought not to, the vehicle should discretely be removed to some place they can't see it or access it. You can use a "therapeutic fib" if they ask where it went (It was leaking fluid so I took it to my shop" etc, whatever you think would work). Try to find the title if it needs to be sold.
Take him/her to a attorney and get a POA. Also, if he/she has a car, take possession of it. You don't want them driving even if there weren't signs of dementia.
- how old is this parent?
- do you live local to them?
- do you want to assume the responsibility of managing their affairs if you can get PoA? (You are not obligated to do so.)
- are they a danger to themselves right now? If so, report to APS.
If your question is about them driving when they ought not to, the vehicle should discretely be removed to some place they can't see it or access it. You can use a "therapeutic fib" if they ask where it went (It was leaking fluid so I took it to my shop" etc, whatever you think would work). Try to find the title if it needs to be sold.