It's to the point that he stated it would be a few weeks before he would be able to come due to a sporting event even though we notified him that her condition has progressed. If she was able to get a caregiver and was given her medication everyday, which the doctor prescribed and did nothing further knowing her condition, I believe she could continue living in her residence. How can I further assist my friend? They just want to put her in memory care.
In home care is extraordinarily costly. You cannot really get someone to administer drugs and that's it. It is usually a minimum of 30.00 an hour 4 hours a day three days a week minimum. And that leaves all other hours uncovered.
If you get no response do report to APS and let them handle this.
I agree from what you have said that she is likely in need of at the least assisted living without a support system in her area, and I would caution that you cannot take that on.
Family will, of course, need POA and MD letters of incompetency to do place an elder in LTC whatever type it is.
Is the doctor aware she is alone and son not coming for a few weeks? Hopefully this doctor is a Neurologist. A PCP should not be dealing with a person suffering from ALZ. If doctor does not know the situation, he should and maybe should call the son.
Its nice you are such a good friend but legally there is nothing you can do for this woman. Her son needs to realize how important this is now.