He wants to ride my son's motorcycle. He hasn’t riden a motorcycle in 30 years. His dr told him absolutely not too. Since he can’t feel his feet and he has poor balance problems. He has asked over and over to ride the bike and my sons tell him no. He could be seriously injured or killed and my son doesn’t want to live that. Anyway things always get heated and same questions are asked with the same questions answered. I don’t think he should try either. But then he gets really mad and sulks. Any suggestions for us.
Is the bike where he can see it? If so, maybe son should find another place to store it. Out of sight out of mind. Stop discussing it. Your husband very well knows why he can't ride it. When he asks, ignore him. Tell him you will no longer discuss why he can't ride. And I suggest if DH still has his licence that you ask his Dr. to report to DMV that he can no longer drive.
You are right to be concerned and to refuse, but that doesn’t change the fact that your husband’s body is betraying him and he’s angry. It’s not your fault, and you’re not really who he’s mad at anyway. He’s just mad at the whole situation, and that he can’t be like the rest of us and do whatever he wants to do. It’s not fair. He has a right to be angry, and that’s what he’s got to come to grips with.
It might help if he can join an online support group - think AA, but for people struggling with neuropathy, or severe diagnosis. It might help him if he hears other people’s stories, and realize he’s not alone in this. As much as you love and care for him, (and I mean this kindly) you really have no idea what he’s going through. If he can touch base with other people like him, it might help.
Worth a shot, I say. Best of luck.