Hi..to say I am fuming is really an understatment..my mom has cancer and seems like I am the only one who runs around the doctors, pharmacies, organasing nurses, and generally taking care of mom. I don't mind at all, I gave up good job and travelled 3000 km to be with her and take care of her. Now here back home. I feel like I am the only one doing everything and financially too. Older brother comes, spends 30 min and goes back to his life until next Friday when he comes again. He never once offered any assistance, but always trying to 'teach me.' I am a polite person, so never respond...his kids never visit their grandmother. I do feel there must be such a disrespect to her. While I work full time, provide on all levels to my mom, they live their lives with no worries and go on holidays every 3 months. I feel so hurt inside, they say they care deeply, but I don't see it. I even tried to talk to them, but then they make me look like I am the wrong one. Any advice...many thanks
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I feel and understand your pain. I too have one brother who lives 10 hours away and has an irritating clueless about him. While I don't expect him to visit on a regular due to the distance, I did expect him to touch base on regular to be informed. I'm the sole care giver and will not do all of the updating. If you wanna know call, it the least you could do.
My brother is also henpecked and can't seem to do anything unless his controlling wife instructs him. So the less he/they visit the better.
Sorry you're feeling this way, but you have to accept that you can't change other people, just the way you respond and let them affect you.