He gets furious and said he is not a child. I cannot even mention studies or anything on Alzheimer's. He was diagnosed at age 59 and it has been a long hard 8 yrs. He can hardly carry on a conversation and gets mad telling me I am getting really hard to deal with and must have mental issues.
What kind of routine of Daily Activities of Living used to be normal for your husband before he got ill?
The reason I ask is that you can use that as a framework. You then support him to carry out tasks within the framework. You don't remind, you don't prompt repeatedly - you initiate, you facilitate, but if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen. It can wait 'til the next time. The key thing is to get the routine established and reinforced, because as he loses ability it will be easier if he's following a clear structure.
Do you have any support for yourself as primary caregiver to a person living with dementia? The website alz.org is a good general source of ideas. And it is Alzheimer's specifically, is it? - any behavioural issues besides when you try to talk about it or remind him about personal care?