My husband came home today after an emergency respite stay. Aged Care Service conducted an emergency ACAT and gave him 63 days respite with an extension of 11 more days to allow for NDIS to get their plan and funding in place BUT I must use it by 5.12.19 and only for the facility where he was. They said he was eligible for permanent placement!!
I was shocked. He said NDIS will probably recommend the same and fully fund it till DH is 65. He advised that next time DH falls I should not try to lift him but call ambulance!! as DH fell last week but I talked him through how to get up.
I said I was not ready to place DH in permanent care and I will apply for Adult Day care, respite and then eventual permanent. I can also get physio to come to house take him to heated pool for exercising each week
I was amazed at how high they placed DH.
Then MIL calls him I can hear her. Wants to know how many times I have visited. Then asks to talk to me. Says I should be doing more to help DH. See new doctors Try new meds. Why aren’t I trying harder. Then BIL rings today and says that as DH is my husband I should be taking care of him. Says family fears I am trying to get rid of him why is he good one day and bad another. Why aren’t meds working etc. politely excused myself from conversation.