I got a letter in the mail. My therapist said in writing:
I am not your therapist and will not resume as your therapist for either general mental health issues or fear of flying. You will not be on the wait list for flying and have been given other options such as soar. Only a new therapist can help with your depression, upset feelings and disappointment that I am not doing more to help you at this time. I have made a police report today for harassment through your continued unwanted phone calls, emails, letters, cards, driving by my house and in my neighborhood, and requests that I be your Facebook friend despite my denying prior requests.
What should I do about this letter? It is upsetting means depression me because I cannot keep in touch with my former therapist.
Shirley occassionally posts the same question over and over but never responds to the comments. She and her husband are alone somewhere out on the east coast. Not sure what sort of shape he's in. Another participant on this forum has tried to get her help "behind the scenes" but to no avail. She is obviously having problems beyond what any of us can help her with, so it really is sort of pointless to leave comments, just FYI as this has been going on for several months, if not longer.
Actually, it may be a good thing if the therapist reports her as a stalker, as she (and her husband) may finally get on the radar of APS.
I suggest no further comments be left.
I am reporting my own post here and asking that Shirley be gently REMOVED from posting on Forum.
She has, if this is a real posting, passed from what she tells us is diagnosed depression into what looks to be clearly a dangerous obsessive and compulsive behavior that apparently her former therapist is very threatened by.
She is badly in need of help far beyond this Forum's expertise.
The attention that Shirley gets here with her posts may/can play into this behavior, thus worsening it. I feel she should be guided toward therapy and away from Social Media.
I worry for the therapist who was treating her and agree with Geaton that our answers here may in fact worsen a possibly real and possibly dangerous situation.
You have posted on and off for over 2 years without answering questions asked. You knew for a year that your therapist was retiring from the type of therapy she was doing. She told you to find a new therapist and I am sure gave you referrals. You must except that she no longer wants any contact with you.
To be blunt, you need a Psychiatrist who is capable of giving you medication that may help with your depression. The woman who was ur therapist is a Social Worker with a Masters. She holds no PHD or MD. I have a feeling she has been telling you for a while that you need more help than she is capable of giving.
This is now very serious. She is sending you a cease and desist letter. She has filed a police report for harassment. The next thing will be an Order of Protection which means if you contact her in any way you can be arrested.
I am so sorry but you need more help than she or we, as everyday people, can give you. Call your County Office of Aging and tell them you need help, NOW!
Leave this woman alone or face criminal prosecution.
When was your last complete physical? It sounds like something is terribly out of balance. Do you go for a walk and get some exercise every day?
Anything new with your husband?
Early on with my current therapist I asked her how I should act if I saw her in a social/public setting. She said I could smile & wave, but I should not encourage contact. And she does the same.
The relationship with a therapist is not 'friends'. It's a business relationship, tho that sounds cold.
The therapist has to draw boundaries and keep them. They cannot take the weight of their clients' issues home with them.
I'm sorry if you feel betrayed or shunted aside, but you MUST respect the therapist's stand. You could be arrested for harassment, and you do not want that.
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