I was sick and tired of being told what to do and never having anyone step up and assist. Only assistance we were given was being told what WE should do. When time comes to dole out inheritance they will step up and take but never lifted a finger. to me this is not about money it is about Fair share. I have not spoken to my husbands side for over a year. I feel better because I already know what I need to do and don't need to be told. My husband is non confrontational. I feel as if for all I have done he is not grateful at all. Our relationship has suffered because of it. In the very least I feel as if he should back me up. I know there are others out there dealing with this. Who needs relatives who only act as Elderly Help desk sons and daughters? It is disgraceful.