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I lost my job the end of 2012 and moved in with my parents where all of a sudden I became a caretaker for my father. Which I didn't mind, but I started having severe pain in my upper thighs to where it made it hard for me to walk. Now my mother is starting to get confused and mixing things up and blames it all on me and tries to say it's my mind going. She's becoming combative as well. When I had a hip transplant last year I couldn't fully recuperate as she made me feel bad by telling me she thought she was going to faint just doing the little chores I did every night. I can't take it anymore. I'm stressed out and physically in pain. My brother has me on his payroll and insurance which I try to appreciate him for doing, but when he comes down he calls me names and literally chews me out. He acts as though he owns me. I'm currently thinking about filing for disability and moving into low income housing. I didn't hurt when I had my own place. In addition, I'm 57 and my mom continually tells me to go to bed. Good gosh is there a light at the end of this tunnel? I feel trapped. Does anyone else feel the same way?

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Yep, some doctors charge to obtain your medical records. Thanks for wishing me luck on Monday. From what I hear SSDI always deny the claim. I would then have to hire an attorney to appeal the denial. Good Gravy!
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They can charge you for your records, but that seems excessive! Good luck Monday!
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Jennegibbs, yes I have an appointment with SSDI on Monday. I went around all day Thursday and Friday getting my medicals. My Primary charged me a $140 for my records. I'm going to send him a letter about it being somewhat extreme to charge a patient that amount. I understand it can take up to 16 to 24 mos. to get SSDI with the help of an attorney but I've got to do something. Thank you for caring. Hugs....
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Filing for disability and moving into low income housing sounds like a good way out. Are you taking action on that?
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djhughs, I share your sentiments. My mother is 91 and has advanced dementia. She thinks she had an accident and she has been recovering for the past 3 weeks. Sometimes she asks me if I think she is getting better. I tell her yes so she feels like she has some hope. I have no help. My step-sister stopped talking to Mom in 1982. Mom has not been nice to people in years and subsequently lost any friends she had. The neighbors stopped talking to her one by one and the relatives don't bother with her except her brother who is approaching 102. I tried to get in-home care for a few hours a week and they say they are not confident they can take my place for 3 hours. I am still looking. I am getting some help with the yard work this year. I finally found a woman who will be coming to fix Mom's hair. It has become tangled and matted from just sleeping 18 hours a day and not combing it. One day last week Mom looked in the mirror and said that people would think she is 90 if they saw her. I had to tell her she is over 90.
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I don't want to be trapped in caregiver prison. I want a life. My mother doesn't think anything is wrong with her and won't allow any caregiver to come to the house and she definitely won't go to adult care. She won't accept she's old now, but she's taking me down with her. My 3 brothers have their lives. Why can't I have mine? I always felt I would be the one taking care of them being I'm the only girl. Sometimes, I just want to get in my car with my pets and drive away. But I don't want to leave my dad.
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I think we've all felt that way at one point or another. What you're going through isn't easy. What I would recommend is perhaps looking into an adult daycare. Drop them off a couple times a week. She'll be looked after, lots of stuff to do, and they can make new friends.
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I'm trapped in caregiver prison. There's no way out. It's a life sentence.
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