I have been responsible for my mom's (76 y/o) care for nearly 10 years now since my father passed away. She did okay the first couple of years after he died but things really went down hill about 5 years ago. At the time she was still lived in her own home out of state but we managed with part time visiting care givers and me making multiple trips per year to be with her.. Long story-short, it got to be to hard being so far away and we moved her to be near us about 3 1/2 years ago. She has dementia, anxiety and depression. 18 months ago she almost died from sepsis while in the hospital but recovered enough to go to rehab and subsequently moved to memory care 15 months ago. Since then she's had 2 falls, one resulting in a broken clavicle, 2 ER visits for UTI's and low sodium and a month ago what we thought was the flu turned out to be another UTI and dehydration from a stomach bug. Once again as with the sepsis the doctors told me she may not recover (was not eating, drinking or responding for the first 5 days, couldn't even swallow) Remarkably she recovered but was released to her memory care with Hospice. She seems to have rebounded a little and is eating and communicating pretty well. She doesn't really walk anymore, is very frail, has lost more weight and has trouble holding herself up and seems to tire easily. Other than that she seems stable, calm and not in pain. She is well taken care of by the staff and hospice and I'm there 3 days/week. I guess my question is, how much longer can she go on like this? My mom was always healthy, active, energetic, loved to walk, cook, dance and visit with friends. It just kills me, really kills me to see her sitting somewhat dazed in a wheelchair or recliner, deteriorating. This is not living. I know she never wanted this and I don't want this for her. We were always close and I feel like the most horrible daughter to wish that my mom would pass away but honestly, that's where I am. And I hate it. I enjoy spending time with her and visiting her and bringing her chocolate (which she still asks for!) but when I leave I am so stressed out and depressed it's really taking a toll. I turned to this forum because everyone on here has always been so supportive and I feel like you all would understand. Thanks in advance for any advice you can give to deal with this difficult time.