My 94 year old mother who is very narcissistic has monopolized my time and energy over the past 3 years. I have cancelled many trips because of her constant health issues and now I've gotten into a situation where I've been too generous with my time and now it is constantly expected. In the meantime, my husband has Parkinson's and needed to retire. So, after I deal with my mother, then I come home and see my husband and I can't help feeling that I'm going to just be a caregiver from now on. Because I don't know how my husband's Parkinson's will progress, I feel like I'm wasting precious time by putting him second to her. I know that the Pandemic certainly hasn't helped this past year but I'm tired of being her "fixer" for everything.
My mother and I are not close at all and I find that I can't even look at her sometimes. I have a lot of resentment towards her for how this has played out over the past few years.