My mom and I have been on and off for years-for her 75th birthday I took her to Florida. I have painted her whole apartment. I have had her at my home for dinner. She has been divorced from my dad over 50 years, and when he passed away and left me his inheritance. She said it should go to her, as she raised my brother and my self. My brother died 20 years ago. ( An accidental drug over dose) I understand that would bother my mom. Years ago my mom was married when she was 18 she had two sons. She left them with their dad, and moved on her own. She met my dad married him and they divorced 5 years later so she raised my brother and I herself. When I was twelve I got into a bit of trouble so my mom put me in a group home. I still have a resentment about that, but let most of that go. My mom was never home for me and my brother working to pay things so I had to cook for him. The time she did have for us she was out with her boyfriend. Then he moved in... my brother and I disliked him very much-many reasons. He finally left after being with us over 20 years. So now I have two businesses, own my home, and my mother is bitter. If I call her she'll say you don't have time for me. When I use to visit her I used to spend 2 hours with her-She wanted more. She'd call me everyday, and I would talk to her, but if I told her I had to go she'd get mad and not call for days. Now things have changed-I haven't talked to her since Feb because all this is very draining and I need time away, and our last conversation she said "your dad told me before he died I'm not leaving you any money cause you will spend it on your boyfriends". She blamed me for saying that to him. I never said anything like that to him. He lived in another territory, he was re married and divorced, he hadn't seen my mom in 20 years nor did they talk. She's told me many times she's going fix me. So no I haven't been to see her. I don't need any more hurts or verbal abuse from her. She is a very negative woman. She has no social activities, and she doesn't bother with anyone. The problem with me is I feel a little guilty in some ways about not spending time, but on the other hand I don't want to put up with all the crap that goes on and negativity I feel when I'm around her. What do I do?