My dad lived with me for 10 months and it was fine but my family missed our privacy and family time so I asked him to move out. He was supposed to move into his own place near my older brother but Covid hit so he had to live with my brother and my brother noticed my dad was becoming forgetful and aggravated really easy and just not right mentally. So he had him evaluated and it turns out he has Vascular Dementia. The doctors said my dad shouldn't live alone because he can't take his meds right, he has diabetes and high cholesterol and heart issues. He also shouldn't drive. My dad freaked out hopped in his car and legitimatly ran away. He ran to my little brother who is a drug addict and won't force him to do the right thing health wise. Told him we were forcing him to move into a nursing home which we weren't. Well he moved into his own apartment which he has been evicted from and my little brother told him he can't live with him because he realized that my dad's condition has gotten worse and he doesn't want to deal with it. My dad hasn't been taking his meds, he's homeless, his Dementia has gotten worse and he says there is nothing wrong with him. He refuses to go to the doctor he's very stubborn. He wants to move in with me. I can not emotionally handle it, he wasn't the greatest father growing up so I have a lot of anxiety issues around him. Plus I took care of my mother who died of lung cancer that spread to her brain until the day she died. I can't watch another parent deteriorate before my eyes. My brother and I are trying to talk him into moving into an assisted living facility and he keeps asking me why he can't live with me. He keeps saying am I that big of a burden. He's only 68 years old. I just turned 43 and my youngest child just joined the Navy and left for bootcamp two weeks ago. My husband and I just became empty nesters and we want to enjoy our time together. What's even more crazy is I just found out a few months ago hes not even my biological father but he raised me so he's still my dad. The only stress I have in my life is the very unstable life he has. He has always made not the greatest choices and he legitly is the only stress and guilt I have in my life. My husband does not want him living with us, I don't want him living with us but how do I tell him. My husband said he will divorce me if my dad moves in because he can't watch me have a mental breakdown, he loves me too much. That's how much anxiety my dad gives me. I have been living off klonopins for the last week he has been here. Help me please!!