Before replying, I always check to see if the person completed a profile. Angie you wrote: "I've had it with him hitting me." You also wrote that your husband is 56 years old - that's really young and he could live another 30+ years. Please don't stick around for the money. Both eventually run out.
I am giving basics here. I would suggest you consult with an elder care lawyer who is well versed in Medicaid in your State. Each state differs. I am in NJ.
When it comes to Medicaid paying for DHs care, you become the Community Spouse. You will be able to remain in your house and have one car. Monthly income and other assets will be looked at. Ex: my friends father needed care. He and his wife received SS and pensions. They had 60k in their savings. The 60k was split between the husband and wife. His half had to be spent down for his care leaving the Cap of 2k that NJ allows. Not sure how the SS and pensions were split but Mrs R never seemed to have any problems paying her bills. And, she never used that 30k she was allowed. It was still in the bank when she passed.
Agree with consulting a lawyer. Not so clear that she can remain in the house. Medicaid will not take it, BUT if she cannot afford maintenance, mortgage, etc., she may have to move. Medicaid will allow her SOME income, but it may not be enough. She needs legal help.
Just because your friend's father had enough money that his wife could afford to stay in the house (and we do not know how modest or luxurious the house was, and what the expenses were), does not mean all can.
Angie, Are you working? Can you work? Do you qualify for disability? Is your husband a veteran?
In trying to help you, please excuse me for searching for more information. Your husband is very young to be disabled.
There are institutional facilities that can house people who commit battery. Those are free. However, there could be medical reasons, even medications that cause him to be this way. Was he always this way, or did it start with a condition or pain meds? There is always hope, some way out. Are you looking to get out for your own safety? Caregivers can give you that kind of advice if you need to.
Or do you feel that you would like to stay, and find resources that would help you to safely stay together?
Not knowing is okay. Sometimes with enough information, and support, we can figure this out.
As far as Medicaid, search "Community Spouse" on this forum (in the search icon above). That will explain how Medicaid is prevented from leaving you impoverished, so you can stay in your home.
Are you okay right now? Safe?
Do you have a "Go bag" packed in case you need to leave in a hurry?
Medicaid doesn’t take anyone’s income. And they don’t leave spouses impoverished. If your husband qualifies or Medicaid and goes in to long term care, you’ll be allowed to keep enough income to live off of. Some of your husbands income may have to be paid to the nursing home each month but you would be allowed enough live off.
My understanding is that spouses get certain considerations when it comes to Medicaid. I don't know the details, but I believe there are others here on the forum who will know.
When it comes to Medicaid paying for DHs care, you become the Community Spouse. You will be able to remain in your house and have one car. Monthly income and other assets will be looked at. Ex: my friends father needed care. He and his wife received SS and pensions. They had 60k in their savings. The 60k was split between the husband and wife. His half had to be spent down for his care leaving the Cap of 2k that NJ allows. Not sure how the SS and pensions were split but Mrs R never seemed to have any problems paying her bills. And, she never used that 30k she was allowed. It was still in the bank when she passed.
Just because your friend's father had enough money that his wife could afford to stay in the house (and we do not know how modest or luxurious the house was, and what the expenses were), does not mean all can.
Are you working? Can you work?
Do you qualify for disability?
Is your husband a veteran?
In trying to help you, please excuse me for searching for more information. Your husband is very young to be disabled.
There are institutional facilities that can house people who commit battery. Those are free. However, there could be medical reasons, even medications that cause him to be this way. Was he always this way, or did it start with a condition or pain meds? There is always hope, some way out. Are you looking to get out for your own safety? Caregivers can give you that kind of advice if you need to.
Or do you feel that you would like to stay, and find resources that would help you to safely stay together?
Not knowing is okay. Sometimes with enough information, and support, we can figure this out.
As far as Medicaid, search "Community Spouse" on this forum (in the search icon above). That will explain how Medicaid is prevented from leaving you impoverished, so you can stay in your home.
Are you okay right now? Safe?
Do you have a "Go bag" packed in case you need to leave in a hurry?