UGH! Dementia is hard. I have a hard time deciphering my Dad's version of reality or what's real. Lately, Dad keeps complaining that his portable oxygen machine is shutting off on the days that he visits the Adult Day Center.
I honestly don't think it's the case, but that could be a serious issue if it really is shutting off. Dad can't see the indicator lights, and I wonder if he just can't feel the machine working.
On the other hand, the Adult Day Center does have quite a few interns that may not know to turn the small portable machine off while Dad isn't using it (he switches to a wall unit once he sits at his table). I thought about putting a note on the machine reminding the staff to turn it off, but I think that's a bit passive aggressive, and I certainly don't want to make a big deal out of another one of Dad's "false realities".
He's also stated that the AL staff is taking the snacks I buy him (Cokes and chips). I have experienced a weekend where I put 4 20-ounce bottles in the fridge on a Saturday and was down to 1 the next day. I'm certain Dad didn't drink that many, but he could have given them away or ANYTHING. He says the same thing about the snack pack potato chips that I buy him. He's convinced someone is taking them, but I think he may be forgetting that he's eating them.
Sodas and chips certainly aren't such a major issue, but I would be lying if I didn't get a little ticked at the thought that staff members are taking snacks that I bought FOR HIM. However, without me being there, there really is not real way of knowing.
I did place a note on Dad's fridge that read, "Please ask before removing items from this unit", but even that seems a bit B****Y, especially if this is all in Dad's head.
So, is there any easy way to get to the bottom of this. Mind you, I can only do the "go along with it" game so far. I don't really do well with dementia.