My Sister has been diagnosed with lung cancer. Her husband tricked my sister into giving him POA. He is flexing his muscles refusing to let her siblings to speak with her doctors even to the point of kicking her son out of the hospital room and not allowing him to go to see her at home. He has also been setting up a case against he saying she incapable of making decisions on our own, but he got her to sign a power of attorney, saying that it was for him instead of her. He will bring her food but does see that she eats. He wants to stop her chemo, even though she is getting it great results. He has painted a picture that she wants to die. Now he wants to put her in hospice to stop all her meds. What can her family do to stop my sister husband from sabotaging her to point she may die. We need to get her away from him immediately. He is good at covering his tracks saying she mental. Please after any suggestions that will get her to a safe place. She is not safe with him.
For me, I need to hear what the sister wants, or what her advance directive says. As a cancer patient myself this is prime imperative to me. She, as I would have, made her HUSBAND her POA. That is important. We are getting one side here. I would love to hear from the husband, but most of all, I would like to hear from the sister.
Why don't you go to her house and call the police to report that she's being held hostage against her will, and ask for a police wellness check. When the police arrive, tell them that she is being intimidated by her husband and you would like to go in with them to help her speak with them without the husband present. Then she can tell them that she is being held hostage.
If she's in the hospital, go there and report that she is being abused and intimidated by her husband, and remind the doctors that they are mandated reporters for abuse. If they object, keep escalating higher and higher up the management chain, including the hospital's lawyers and CEO. Just keep asking for the next level person. Insist that they produce the documents he is using to prove that she is incompetent and that therefore his POA is in effect.
He is her husband but the accusations alleged in the post suggest an person not of the best interest of the patient. Perhaps he is respecting the preset directives of the patient that you and family are not aware of.
Are you certain this isn't what your sister wishes? Are the emotions of her disease, life expectancy or quality of life diminishing dictating the accusations?
If this situation is truly as you state, it will best to go to an attorney with experience in POA and guardianship. The attorney will advise you and determine if this is a case that should go forward.
Be aware, it is very complex override a POA without the patient agreement. Then to gain Guardianship is another expensive and legal avenue after revoking POA if she is deemed incompetent.