I buy food and pay utilities. She lives in an in-law apt downstairs. How do I not feel hurt - I take her to hopsitals doctors, food shopping, hairdressers. I feel so hurt, I am the oldest. The way she told me was very hurtful saying she needs to have it fixed, so I said lets go and have it fixed - then she said I wonder if your sister will wear it, my heart sunk. I don't begrudge her, it is her stuff, but I am the only one that does everything - how do I stop feeling sorry for myself?