i have talked w a nurse company which said they could try to help cus i have a tumor in my adrenal gland...my mom once again doesnt care n when she lives w me its very hard to deal with ....idk since i have a durable power of attorney if medicare pays or helps pay at all...i have her finances caught up but not much saved since my sister....can anyone tell me w her dr. dismissing her how do i get her in respite care n they said they can evaluate her also she makes me feel selfishly cruel but is making my anxiety very bad....i have to have this surgery ....can anyone please tell me about respite care n she has medicare and health choice thank you for the help.
https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/what-respite-care
I think you need to talk to someone in your doctors office who can get a Social Worker to help you. Or call your Office of Aging. You may have a long cooperation period and will not be able to handle Moms care too.
If all Mom receives is SS and has no assets ( other than a house/car), then you may be able to get her into LTC with Medicaid paying. Let the LTC be payee for Moms SS and any pension. All her needs will be taken care of. Meals, care, laundry, diapers. Meds, toiletries, etc. You can just worry about healing. When all is said and done, she can stay where she is and you can have a life.
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