We live with her. She hates to get up in the morning but we must get her up as she is incontinent and I have to change her. She also gets many UTI's so must try to keep her as dry and comfortable as possible. She has had many TIA'S and the last one left her with limited mobility. She needs assistance with almost everything. Helping her up, walking with walker, helping her to sit, toileting, getting dressed and undressed, getting into and out of bed and the list goes on. We get out to grocery shop and do errands about 7 hrs/week dividing into two 3-1/2 he days when we have a caregiver. Also at times get out for an additional 3 hrs for religious meetings and must pay for this by the hour. She hates it when we go out even for this little time. We love her dearly as she has been the best mother anyone could ask for all our lives. I am so extremely stressed out as I feel like I don't have a life of my own. I take all of us to Dr. Appts. etc. All she wants to do is lay down from the minute she gets up all day long unless we go to an appt. We don't have much family left and don't really live close to any remaining ones. I am trying to live my life best way I can taking one day at a time but things here are so stressful for me. She is really no trouble while laying down and watching tv most of day but needs her meals prepared and meds given which she hates to take but must make sure she takes them. Must keep getting her up throughout the day to use bathroom. We don't want her in a NH while we can care for her as she would hate it so much. I have been caring for her for over 6 years now. My brother could stay with her for some hours in the afternoon but I feel like I have so many responsibilities at times and usually end up staying at home. Feel like things are so miserable but trying my best.
Guess I'm just venting now and don't really think anyone can help me but any advice welcome. Thank you.