I can't seem to help myself. I feel alone and lost. What should I do?

I am in a church group and they give great support. My two best friends are not much help. One is moving from Md to Wisconsin. The other is severely disabled and needs a hip replacement. So other that someone to talk to, she cannot be of any help. The other depresses me that she is moving so far away! I will miss her so very much. My husband needs help doing everyday chores of living yet he is strong and looks capable. He cannot carry on a conversation and is little to no help around the house. He needs to be guided in everything. Having no one to talk to. My confidant, my protector, my decision maker are all gone. I never know if I am making right decisions about household stuff, money problems, etc. Everyone says get help, but that takes money. I really want to lean on someone, but there is no one. My two daughters are not close, so I can't even confide in them. I don't want to sound like a whiner to them. I feel so alone!