I have been living with my boyfriend for 7 years, recently his mother moved with us and its been crazy. She is very dirty, she has a constant runny nose and always reuses tissues which she forgets everywhere she is constantly coughing and she doesn't cover her mouth which is disgusting especially when she is making food, I don't eat her food cause of that she cuts her hair because she is constantly depressed by god knows what. I never have space to be with my boyfriend which is causing us to fight more. I want to break up with him cause i can't stand her anymore. She has a negative outlook on everything and she has moved in with her dads ashes and 2 dogs ashes which passed away more than 3 years ago all this negative energy is too much. My boyfriend is more irritated by her than I am because he has lived with her before and he ended up moving away to avoid dealing with her. She doesn't like staying with her daughter cause she is lesbian. Do I breakup with my boyfriend and move out ? He said he won't have his girlfriend living alone hence I say I would rather leave him than stay in this toxic situation. Or do I stick it out till she passes away she is 75 and is in love with any pill that makes her high. Also her being dirty gets to me she showers once a week and I always have to clean up behind the both of them. I am exhausted and wasting my life taking care of 2 adults. 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

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I doubt your b/f is more irritated with his mother than you are............he moved her BACK in with him after having to move away to get away from her once before? What does THAT tell you? The b/f obviously doesn't learn from his own mistakes or he would not have moved his mother back in with him again after such a dreadful first experience! Either that or he's playing you........and wants BOTH women taking care of him.

At 75 years old, she can live another 20 years. My mother will be 94 soon and in SPITE of a ton of health issues and moderate dementia, she keeps going and going and GOING, just like the Energizer Bunny. Imagine your life in 5, 10, 15 years from now with this woman still coughing, and leaving snot rags all over your house.

Get out while you still can. And tell your b/f to grow a pair already. Once should have been MORE than enough!

Good luck!
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Reply to lealonnie1

Time to go. You still young enough to find someone who has no baggage. Good luck and come back and tell us how it works out.
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Reply to JoAnn29

Just the fact that he told you he "won't have his girlfriend living alone" should be grounds for reconsidering life with him. Move out and move on.
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Reply to Geaton777

Get your own place and ghost him.
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Reply to ZippyZee

She is 75? She has certainly a good 2 more decades left in her. How old would that make you? 40s?
Yes, I would sit quietly with your boyfriend and tell him that if his Mom is staying you need to go. He has already chosen her over you.
Good luck. Day at a time. You can do this. I hope you have a friend you can temporarily room in with. Wishing you the best. Sad, but you can move on.
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