I wondered if anybody else has this problem. I am new to this forum but I love it!!! So much empathy and great advice on here. My mother is 95 years old with an undiagnosed mental illness. She has undiagnosed mental illness. She is bipolar. A hoarder, and a gambling addict. She is mean and nasty and I am her only caregiver that stops in to check on her. She lives alone and won’t let anybody in the house. I can’t get her to bathe and wash her hair. Last time I did it for her was May and it was a lot of screaming and yell to try and get her to cooperate. I have talked to her doctor and an elder lawyers and they said as long as she is competent which she is, there is nothing that can be done. When she went to the doctors they said she is off the charts cognitively for being age 95. She is fiercely independent and her memory is exceptional. I can’t get her to go to an assisted living or nursing home if I tried. She won’t go. When I try to wash her hair she screams at me to leave otherwise she is going to call the police. Any thoughts or ideas?